BellaVista Church of Christ



Randall Caselman

She Chose To Dance

Do you remember the song that put Garth Brooks at the top of the country music charts? It was The Dance. The song is about a broken relationship; maybe from divorce or death, we don’t know which. Things just didn’t work out as expected. The song addresses the question, if I had known, going into this relationship, what kind of pain I would face, would I have even begun the relationship? Read it again with me as we apply the thoughts expressed to mother...


Looking back on the memory of,
The dance we shared beneath the stars above.
For a moment all the world was right;
How could I have ever known you would say good-bye.

But now I’m glad I didn’t know;
The way it all would end, the way it all would go;
Our lives are better left to chance,
I could have missed the pain,
But I would have missed the dance

Holding you, I held everything,
For a moment, wasn’t I a king?
If I had only known how the king would fall;
Then who’s to say you know,
 I might have changed it all.

But now I’m glad I didn’t know,
The way it all would end and the way it all would go.
Our lives are better left to chance;
I could have missed the pain,
 But I would have missed the dance.


The request on the radio was from a thirty-year-old woman. She had just lost her two-year old son to leukemia. She asked that the song be dedicated to him. She was saying; “had I known before you were born what was going to happen, I would have chosen to give you life anyway! I could have missed the pain, but I would have missed the dance.” Indeed, this is a mother’s love.

It is so right, prudent, and scriptural to honor Mother. Solomon honored Bathsheba. When she arrived in the throne room, Solomon arose to greet her, bowed before her, and set a throne for her at his right hand. Outside Jerusalem an eerie unexplained darkness crept over the Judean foothills. Jesus speaks to his mother and his dear friend. In paraphrase, He says, "Mother, you need a son." Then looking at John, He said, "Take care of her for me." One of the Ten Commandments says, "Honor your mother." The Apostle Paul speaks plainly to the church today, "Honor your father and mother." Honoring mother is a concept shared by great men outside the Bible.

Abraham Lincoln said, “All that I am, or can be, I owe to my angel mother.” Henry Ward Beecher said, “The mother’s heart is the child’s classroom.” John Gray is credited with saying, “The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world.” Napoleon maintained, “The future destiny of the child is always the work of mother.” Oliver Wendell Holmes wrote: “Youth fades, love droops, the leaves of friendship fall. But a mother’s love outlives them all.”


There are many reasons to set aside a day in honor of mother.

Because she first loved us. Mothers are made in the image, the likeness of God. Like Him, she first loved us. From the beginning, she surrounded us with a hedge of love. She carefully shaped our lives. She refused us too much freedom too soon. Though painful to her, she disciplined. I remember Mother whipping me and then I would catch her secretly crying about it. Most of us can remember a time when we did not know that God loved us, but we can never remember a time when we didn't know our mother’s love.

Because she always wants the best for us. I can recall Mother kneeling at the foot of her bed, taking my name to the throne of God. Regardless of where our mother is today, in this world or beyond, her prayer for us is still the same — that we will be God’s child, God’s person; that we will respond, in faith, to His will through the Word. You see, mothers are eternally prejudiced in our favor.

Because time and life are running out. Take this to heart, we do not have forever to honor mother. Time slips away. Life is short. Eternity will not provide enough time for the regret if we neglect the opportunity we have today of saying, "Mother, I love you!" A phone call. A flower. A hug. A kiss. Honor her today by making things right if they are wrong. Time doesn’t heal the wounds of abuse and neglect in a mother’s heart – only you can do that! James said: "If you know to do right, then do it." It’s a sin not to honor mother. Do it today! One of us may not be here tomorrow.

“I could have missed the pain; I would have missed the dance.” Here it is reader: Aren't we glad our mother chose to dance? Now, Mother’s Day is our time to dance. It's our time to say, "thank you, I love you." If mother is gone, then thank God for her and her memory. Of course, the best way to honor any mother is to adjust our life to her prayer for us to be what God wants us to be… Amen?