Bella Vista Church of Christ





Choosing To Be A Good Parent


  So you want to be a good parent! What are the basics for those who desire to be the kind of parents God wants?


Let's consider some suggestions...


  Shower them with love. Children are always changing. But the atmosphere of love makes the change easier. Paul wrote, "Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they become discouraged" (Colossians 3.21). Paul gives us the kind of love parents should have: It's to be a love that's: "Kind, patient... Not irritable... Bears all things, endures all things." The more hugs, kisses, and tenderness our children receive the better. This is not just the rule for mothers, but for dads, too. Question!... When was the last time you said to your child "I love you?"


  Remember we are their teacher. God commanded Israel to "teach... diligently" God's will to their children. It is much easier to punish when they do wrong than to teach them, but our role as a parent is to teach. Here it is, we cannot expect others to teach our children what God expects us to teach. We are commissioned: "teach them diligently to your children, and talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand and they shall be as frontlets between our eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates" (Deuteronomy 6.7-9).


  Don't be afraid to discipline. Discipline is hard work. It's tough to punish our little ones. But God said, "He who spares his rod hates his son, but he who loves disciplines him promptly" (Proverbs 13.24). Promptly means that the parent does not procrastinate, but takes the necessary action in the appropriate time. Parental discipline has its own guidelines: 1) Never harm the child, 2) Always discipline in love, not in anger, 3) Apply discipline promptly, fairly, and consistently.


  The word discipline comes to us from a Latin root that means "instruction." Solomon said, "Chasten your son while there is hope" (Proverbs 19.18). Our children's future depends on our being a good, fair, loving, disciplinarian.


  Show them the way. Children learn from what they see. Teaching involves more than the spoken word. Gotta tell you, it's poor instruction to talk the talk and not walk the walk. Our children are watching, listening. They do not respond well to such inconsistency. The bottom line is: We must make our life what we want our son's and daughter's to be like. We must live a life of worship and service to the Lord. Set them a proper example: "Be an example in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith, in purity"... "Show yourself in all respects to be a model of good works, and in your teaching show integrity, dignity, and sound speech" (1 Timothy  4.12b &Titus 2.7).


  God has given us custody of precious souls and asked us to: "Bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord" (Ephesians 6.4).


Adapted from

House to House-Heart to Heart