Bella Vista Church of Christ



Randall Caselman


Honoring Mother


Is it right? Do we have scriptural authority to honor Mother?


Solomon, honored his mother. First Kings tells of Bathsheba visiting the palace of her son. When she arrived in the throne room, Solomon honored her: 1] Arose to greet her, 2] Bowed before her, 3] Set a throne for her at his right hand. (1 Kings 2.19).


Outside Jerusalem we see three crosses. It's early afternoon and an eerie unexplained darkness has crept over the Holy City. Jesus honors His mother. He speaks to Mary and his dear friend, John. In paraphrase, He says: "Mother, you need a son." Then focusing on John, He says,"Take care of her for me."


The fifth of the Ten Commandments from Sinai includes "Honor your mother." The

Apostle Paul speaks plainly to the church today: "Honor your father and mother... that it may be well with you, and that you may live long on the earth" (Exodus 20.5 & Ephesians 6:2-3).


It should not surprise us that great men outside of the Bible were steeped in the concept of honoring their mothers...

• Abraham Lincoln said: All that I am, or can be, I owe to my angel mother:

• Henry Ward Beecher wrote: The mother's heart is the child's classroom.  

• John Gray is credited with saying: The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world.

• Napoleon maintained: The future destiny of the child is always the work of mother.

• Oliver Wendell Holmes:

Youth fades, love drops, the leaves of friendship fall,

But a mother's love outlives them all.


  Why Should We Honor Mother?


  Because she first loved us. Mothers are made in the image, the likeness of God - Like Him she first loved us. Mother gave us life. From the beginning, she surrounded us with a hedge of love. She carefully shaped our lives. She refused us too much freedom too soon. Though painful to her, she disciplined. I remember Mother whipping me and then I would catch her secretly crying about it. Most of us can remember a time when we did not know that God loved us, but we can never remember a time when we did not know our mother's love. Amen?


  Because she is eternally prejudiced in our favor. I can recall Mother kneeling at the foot of her bed, taking my name to the throne of God. Let me tell you something - Regardless of where our mother is today, in this world or beyond, her prayer for us is still the same -That we will be God's child, God's person, that we will respond to His Word. You see, mother always wants the best for us. We honor her because she first loved us has an eternal desire for our betterment.


  Because time and life are running out. Of all the things in this world, we take for granted, perhaps most is time. Folk, we do not have forever to honor Mother. Satan is saying, you have all kinds of time to do good, to honor your Mother. Here it is, eternity will not provide enough time for the regret if we neglect and abuse the opportunities we have today of saying: Mother, I love you! A Phone Call. A Flower. A Hug. A Kiss. Honor her today by making things right if they're wrong. Time doesn't heal the wounds of abuse and neglect in a mother's heart. James said, If you know to do right, then do it. It is a sin not to honor mother.


  Interesting isn't it that the Book of Proverbs ends with a chapter in honor of a wife and Mother: "Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: 'Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.' Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Give her the reward she has earned, and let her works bring her praise at the city gate" (Proverbs 31.28-31).


  Mother's Day - Use it to personally say: Thank you. I love you. If mother is gone, then thank God for her: Her memory, her love and her discipline. Of course, the best way to honor any mother is to adjust our life to her prayer. Amen?


—Randall Caselman